Getting to know why, how and in what pattern you drink can really help you to identify if and when you’re going to struggle during your 31 days so that you can prepare, and breeze through any challenging moments.
Below are three types of drinkers with three different preparation strategies to help you make the most of your challenge. If you can’t find a style you identify with, there are two more in Try Dry®: The Official Guide to a Month Off Booze.
It’s Friday night and the weekend has landed. You don’t make plans for Saturday or Sunday because you know you’ll be out partying ’til the wee hours and recovering well into the afternoon, when you’ll be ready to hit the town again. Not drinking during the week won’t be a problem for you. You can happily go Monday to Thursday without a drink, but you work hard and reward yourself with a lively social life at the weekend.
If this is you: There are two things that might trip you up on your dry journey: 1. FOMO – the fear of missing out on any fun and feeling deprived if you don’t get your weekly fix of drinking in. 2. You think everyone has expectations that involve you knocking back the booze and being the life and soul of the party.
What can you do to prepare? Think about your reasons for doing your dry challenge. Do they still hold true? If so, treat your four alcohol-free weekends as an experiment. You’re there to observe what the world in general and going out in particular is like without an alcohol haze. It can be daunting to think of having a good time without a drink. After all, can you even have fun sober? The answer, of course, is yes – but nevertheless, be prepared to temper your social life, just for this month. Going out sober can take a little bit of getting used to – though once you’ve cracked it you might find you have a better time than ever!
You drink to unwind, to forget the troubles of the day and because, goddammit, you deserve it. A drink in the evening signals the end of the working day/week and you use alcohol to relax. During particularly stressful periods you have a drink (or two) to help you sleep.
If this is you: When things are going well, you won’t think about booze much, but what will you do if you have a stressful day or there is a crisis?
What can you do to prepare? You need to explore other ways of relaxing. Experiment with warm baths, playing your favourite tunes, yoga, PlayStation, gardening – the options are infinite. Take a look at the activities suggested in this earlier blog.
Think about the things that make you feel stressed – is it situations? People? Deadlines? Note down these questions: What is making me feel stressed? What can I do about the situation? Who might be able to help? How can I take care of myself right now? Take a look at your list and think of something you could have done in each stressful situation or what you actually did that worked – unless it was a large glass of red! These are your stress-busting alternatives to booze.
You
drink when you’re sad, bored, tired or lonely. If you’re nervous in
social situations, a drink will make you more outgoing. If you’ve got an
unplanned evening ahead of you, you’ll find something interesting to do
once you’ve had a drink. Maybe you’re getting over an emotional break
up, bereavement or other loss and alcohol helps you to forget the
negative emotions for a while.
If this is you:
You’re in a rut and drinking helps you to stay there. You’re going to
have to climb out and tackle the touchy-feely stuff that you’ve been
avoiding by hiding behind a glass – and that can be hard.
What can you do to prepare? Practise the mindfulness activities from this blog.
This will start to get you thinking about your triggers for drinking.
Once you’ve identified exactly how you feel when you reach for the
glass, you can start to work on strategies for responding differently to
that emotion. Look at things that you can do instead of drinking. Rest
assured, a month without alcohol should help with both mood and sleep.
If you’re really struggling to make changes and your mood is usually
low, it might be worth a visit to your GP.
Adapted from Try Dry®: The Official Guide to a Month Off Booze